Scenario #2: You have bad news to deliver to your boss or another colleague. You missed a delay, made an error or screwed in another way. IT`S COMPATIBLE WITH SOMEONE. (Be CAREFUL! AGREE should not be built with BE as a help tool!) Any questions. Hill says it`s better to ask questions than to make statements. Instead of thinking about what you want to say, think about what you want to learn. This will help you reach the cause of the conflict and put yourself in place to resolve it. You can ask questions like “Why did it upset you?” or “How do you see this situation?” Use phrases that make you more receptive to a real dialog box. Once you have heard the other person`s point of view, Hill suggests that you paraphrase yourself and asks, “I think you said X, did I do that correctly?” Sometimes you have a hothead on your team — someone who even seems to enjoy conflict. Of course, disagreements are not always a bad thing, but you need to help the person explore how he or she could damage their reputation and relationships.
You can try something like, “I like having you around, because where I`m sensitive, you talk about important topics and you feel strong about them. I also know you`re well-intentioned. I would like to tell you if you have the effect you want. Make him rethink the consequences of his regular struggles. First of all, the stakes are usually high when emotions are. “In conflicts, there are usually negative emotions involved, and most of us are not comfortable with such feelings,” she says. Our discomfort can make us whisper about our words or say things we don`t think. – It`s partly true that… – It`s true, but… I cannot agree with reservations.
– It`s obvious, but… – It`s not as simple as it sounds. – I agree with you, in principle, but… – This seems obvious, but … – In some circumstances … – I am fully/absolutely/complete/agree with them. To do the opposite of what a person, sentence of rules, etc. says you should do because you do not agree with them We may need to express our consent, or not with the action or attitude of a person. So it`s much better to do it right! – I don`t agree with you. – I`m sorry, but I don`t agree with you. – I`m afraid I don`t agree with you. – The problem is that…
– I (many) doubt that (if)… – It`s totally at odds with… – With all due respect,… – I don`t agree because… – I can`t share this /this / the point of view. I do not agree with that idea. What I am saying is that I have thoughts about it. – It`s more than that. The problem is that… I think… Scenario #1: You have a criticism or disagreement to offer.
Maybe you don`t agree with the popular perspective or maybe you`re talking to someone more powerful than you. Formally to express strong differences, especially with what people think in authority or with what most people think In a situation like this, you also want to consider the location of the event. “Maybe you can have a more open discussion with someone if it`s an individual interview and not in front of a group,” she says. If Carl gets defensive, you can say you`re not disputing his intent. “I`m not talking about what you intended to do. I thought it was better to clear the air than to smile. Would you agree? After all, maybe it`s nothing essential, it`s just a disagreement between the girls. The problem, Hill says, is that people are often stopped before they get tired of the emotion. “Keep them behind and let them say their play. You don`t have to agree, but listen,” she says.